There are always two sides to a story.

Remember the coin that Harvey Dent had (in the Dark Knight), the one which had faces on both sides (almost similar), yeah I am not talking about that. I am talking about a normal coin which can be refereed to any normal situation. Whatever happens, its our choices that makes us truly what we are and as spiderman said, there is always a choice, no matter what.
so from today, instead of looking at the dark gloomy face of the coin, I am going to look at the brighter side of it.
why should I allow anyone to upset my mood, or give me a hard time. I am my own ruler and I am going to do what I want to do, and I am always going to have a choice of choosing the right or the wrong, but whatever choice I make, its mine, profoundly, single handedly, mine.

why be

with somebody who can't find a single thing in you worth appreciating.
I mean whats the whole institution of love being the only power transforming ugly into beautiful for that one person in the whole world.
I guess people believed in all that crap, some people still do.

If someone loves you, they should love you no matter what. YES, there is UNCONDITIONAL love, there has to be, I believe that there is. I am sure it will be worth the wait. I mean why tell someone that you love them so that eventually when they fall in love with you, you can't stop annoying them by telling them to change. If there is a single percentage of the change-of-feelings situation, one should own up, instead of making the other person either crazy to the level of insanity or drowning them in the deepest, lowest pit of self-esteem.
It is necessary to feel good no matter what! Each and every human being on this earth is allowed to feel good about themselves. and

"NO ONE can make you feel inferior without your own consent.", The gracious Eleanor Roosevelt said that.

If you feel the person you're with doesn't deserve you or you don't deserve the person you're with, 'fess up and if you can't change and make it work, let it go. Its better than creating complexities and destroying one's personality, so stop,  save your time, look for someone else. 
Stop this stupid Indian mindset that the first person you date is the one you'll spend the rest of your life with, maybe it happens but you know what at least don't commit on the first date. First get to know that person better, than decide if you are compatible and you get along, if you do than well HALLELUJAH! lucky you. You've hit the jackpot. But if not, let it go and Move the hell on to another person. There are plenty of fish in the ocean. 

As there is someone to whom you are as beautiful and charming AS You want it to be, don't waste your time with losers who puts you down just because you are fat or ugly or both because you very well know that YOU ARE NOT.. 

Life!

Isn't that absolutely correct!

I'm sure you might have heard this before, I surely have, but today at some point, It means something to me.

Its totally worth sharing it! 

A valuable lesson learnt (part II) ...

Read this small story; Hope that makes a BIG change in YOU !

At The End Don't Forget To Share It If It Inspires You :)

The Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it.
He held it up for all to see & asked the students "How much do you think
this glass weighs?"

'50 grams!'..... '100 grams!' .....'125 grams' ...the students answered.


"I really don't know unless I weigh it," said the professor, "but, my
question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?"


'Nothing' ...the students said.


'Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?' the professor
asked.


'Your arm would begin to ache' said one student.


"You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?"


"Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis &
have to go to hospital for sure!"
... Ventured another student & all the students laughed 

"Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?" Asked the
professor.


'No'.. Was the answer.


"Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?"


The students were puzzled.


"What should I do now to come out of pain?" asked professor again.


"Put the glass down!" said one of the students "Exactly!" said the
professor.


Life's problems are something like this.


Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.


Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache.


Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do
anything.


It's important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But EVEN
MORE IMPORTANT is to 'PUT THEM DOWN' at the end of every day before you go
to sleep...


That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh &strong & can
handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!


So, when you start your day today, Remember friend to 'PUT THE GLASS DOWN
TODAY!' Let go of all that is unnecessary.. Wishing you a light new life..

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This story inspired me so much that I had to let the world know,

To all those who are/were, a part of my life in anyway possible, 

"if I did anything wrong to you, today is the last day I am going to think about it. and I suggest you do the same, so from the bottom of my heart, I am sorry, if you can please forgive me"

Lets put the glass down today, shall we, and start a new fresh chapter of our lives. 

XOXO

A valuable lesson learnt..

Sometimes, I sit back and think and say to myself, "What an idiot I was", "What dropped on my head at that time", "I must be mentally challenged back then"
Well today was one of those days.
I was sitting, an average Saturday evening, but suddenly my mind, on its own accord, went into a FLASHBACK. 
After a while, my mind was showing me all the silly, stupid things I did in my past.  I realized, We all make mistakes. But a useful mistake would be the one in which, instead of regretting we learn something valuable and turn that mistake into a Lesson. 
If we keep regretting about something we did wrong, it would only keep us from moving on! 
and Moving ahead is as essential as drinking water, trust me. 
OK, we did a mistake, we know we did a mistake, we are SORRY we made that mistake, but we can't keep on rubbing that thing in our mind. Somewhere or After Sometime, our subconscious needs to make a little peace with it. Not doing so, would cause depression, inability to take risks and in simple words, it will make it extremely difficult to MOVE ON. 
Living with regrets is definitely not healthy for any human being. 
More then you guys, I am probably writing this to convince myself more, that, I am not doing anything wrong, if I want to keep my past mistakes at a bay from my regular life. Its good for my present and future both, I guess. 
Just by thinking about it, or remembering it, or telling my mind that "I made an awful mistake" every time won't help me  in choosing my next step. 

So I am gonna let "bygones be bygones"

"Erase the past, Enjoy the present and Embrace the Future"-  

^ This quote came into my mind, if you know who is it by please let me know (I am not sure, if these words are exactly used by someone else before, but they fit here well, I guess). 

Moving on, 
Sincerely yours.
XOXO 

Winters

The best time of the year!

I was thinking about setting up a christmas tree early this year. My mom was surprised as to why I want to set up a christmas tree this early, well to begin with she wanted to know why I wanted to set up a tree at all. 

I don't know I just love Christmas, well its a bummer that we don't get snow here, aah what I'd give to live in a snowy place someday.  Sure, it'll happen one fine day but till then enjoy the spirit of Christmas no matter where you are in the World. 

If you consider there are so many festivals that relate to all different mythologies. The meaning of festivals are same but, the time they are celebrated, might differ in all parts of the world. Take out the optimist inside of you and celebrate all the festivals no matter which religion you follow. 

Even the smallest occasions in life should be celebrated. Life never throws a second chance. Make each day count. 

I hope I am able to set up a very pretty Christmas tree so that my mom thinks it'd look best with presents around it. PICTURE PERFECT.

(Who doesn't love presents :D)

XOXO

Isn't it Gorgeous!

P.S. this is what I hope mine looks like. Enlightens the spirit inside of ya inn'it? 

MERRY CHRISTMAS! 

People you shared your history with

Ah! so much has happened in this last month, just didn't get a chance to share it with you all.
I have started to commute which consumes all my day, from early morning to late evening I just don't get to know when my day started and when it's already time for bed. I am not an early riser also I am on the first stage of insomnia which doesn't let me sleep on proper timings, but after this heavy schedule and all-busy day, I have to sleep on time, get up on time, honestly I am losing my nerves here.

Weekend and vacations are one time when I become my old-self and trust me, that feels good.
and another thing that makes me feel equally good is the good time's spent with my favorite group of people in the world, my sisters, Mehak, Deepali and Kinu. Can't explain how much fun it is when we get together, and that is rare, as Mehak lives in Delhi and Deepali in Canada, I and Kinu are from the same part of a little city in Punjab. When I got a chance to hang out with the trio all together, I was, in no-way going to miss the chance to add this holiday in the list of best-times-EVER.

And, for once again, we did have the best times of our lives, I am surely saying that from their part too because, I know them, bloody-hell-a-lot-well. Okay, the plan didn't go that well, we had to miss a little bit of the itinerary but hey! it was all worth it! I still end up laughing out loud on some of the silliest jokes we made. For myself only, I can say that the time I spent with these people is the time I am going to cherish throughout my life, even if I get to live a hundred years!
Its just their talent or my weakness towards them, they do an amazing job to make me feel happy and special.

In the end, because I can't go into much details due to certain requirements of the Censor board, for obvious reasons, I am going to end this entry on a mysterious yet happy note.

I don't have the pictures yet but surely coming soon with a little more update of the 'highlights of the day' when I meet them again, next Weekend! YAYIEEEE. Can't wait

I love you guys..
XOXO

How we Met

"How did you guys meet"?  I am talking about my partner-in-crime here, PRABHLEEN KAUR, a lot of people have been asking us this question lately and even though its not a new thing, we decided to turn it into my new blog entry, The story of How We Met!
It was 28th August of 2009, our Admission Counseling Day, it was as if, the only course left for me to get admission if I wanted to become an engineer, so my parents and I went up to the counseling of 5-year Integrated Engineering Management Course at Punjabi University, Patiala. When I entered, I thought, I am going to be stuck here, in the middle of weirdos. But then I saw her, sitting in between her parents, I thought she was there to admit her 'younger' sibling or someone else because she certainly didn't look my age (credits to her tall frame, she's 5'10'' :p).  She smiled her million dollar smile at me and I gave her my worried smile back, not aware of the fact that she was going to be my BFF <3
I went to stand with my dad and his friend, he was there with his daughter for her admission too, I didn't know her then either, but another of my crazy buddies MANU THAKUR. We became friends instantly and we were discussing her last-bogus-experience in Guru Nanak Dev Engineering College Ludhiana. We were in the midst of talking when the announcing lady yelled, "Prabhleen Kaur please proceed" I saw her going to sign up for admission in Electronics and Communication Department.
After a while when I and Manu were done with our admission forms too, Prabhleen (I know she's going to kill me for the extensive usage of her name Prabhleen instead of her preference for PARRY but I am going to keep it this way)  came up to me and asked, "which trade are you getting into and when will the final list come up?" I replied, "I don't know, but I'll let you know as soon as I find out." She gave me her number, I went to my mom to take my phone out of her bag, and I saved her number. We talked in the evening when she called me to tell me that the lists were there and that we've both got our preferred trades.
Later that evening, I was just going through my facebook and I found out a new friend request from a certain Prabhleen Kaur, her profile picture in a green t-shirt-, still one of my favorite pictures of her, and that's how I found this creepy-facebook-obsessed-sweet-innocent-completely-boungi PARRY.
Sure, we had a lot of low-phases in our life, but who doesn't ?? and we've come out stronger than ever, out of every situation. There are things that she doesn't like about me, and I don't like about her, despite of all that we are Friends Forever and Ever.

Here's to you, Parrad, "From the first day of our college till the last day of my life, I'll be standing right next to you till the day I die." I LOVE YOU :)

And as we go on, we remember, All the times we've had together; And as our lives change, from whatever, We are
"FRIENDS FOREVER"

P.S. Our favorite song, we scream our lungs out when we sing this together, "http://youtu.be/Ie5YvDd4NFw"

Eternally grateful ;)

"In life, we must learn to say - I am sorry, I love you, thank you and good bye. It might not be easy but we can also say you are welcome, please stay or even stop. It would just be a matter of choice; choice of words, time and person. So be honest, listen and say what is in your heart."

- Facebook status updated by my friend PRABHLEEN KAUR.. 

Whether you are saying sorry for accidentally bumping into someone, or hurting them beyond repair, saying it to a random person or some one you don't want to loose. "Sorry" helps, it makes a difference. 
Whether you are thanking some one for lending you a pencil or thanking them for being there for you, to some one helping you at the ticket counter or some one helping you in running your life, "thanks" helps, it makes a difference. 
Whether the goodbye you said was more intentional or involuntary than you meant it, "see you soon" helps, it makes a difference. 
Whether you are saying I love you to your mom or your brother, your family or your friend, some one you meet everyday or you see once every year, it helps, it always makes a difference. 
These words are not adjectives or helping verbs or nouns or pronouns they hold much more relevance in our lives than a few grammar tests or mannerisms. Its funny how we forget to tell our moms that we love them, forget to say thanks to our dads and sorry to our siblings but we do not hesitate in wasting these precious words by casually springing them unnecessarily at any random stranger. Its good to say thanks to the lady at the coffee shop, to the waiter who had to pick up your dirty dishes, sorry to the janitor who had to clean up your mess! But seriously, at first, why not say thanks to your dad for working hours and hours so that you could eat out, shop till your hearts stops beating, and enjoy a comfortable life; why not say thanks to your moms who suffered sleepless nights due to your sore tummy when you were a kid, sorry for breaking your siblings favorite toys just for the fun of it. And than throw these words around in the basket of kindness, mannerisms and etiquette s.Taking the most important people in our life for granted leads to zero appreciation whereas you should be showering them with presents (just a thought).
Always remember:


"Be grateful, be kind, be loved"


XOXO 

The Hare and The Tortoise, yet again..

We have all heard about the story about the famous race between our very favorite, Mr. Tortoise and Mr. Hare since childhood. 
Lets repeat it again today with a bit of addition to the original version, as life throws something new at us all the time, one of my new favorite rules quoted by one of my favorite TV characters that "new is always better" so here's presenting to you some new add-on s to one of the oldest stories of my life.

Story #1 (the original version, just in case you missed it before or simply for reminiscing purposes)


Once upon a time in a jungle there lived a Tortoise and a Hare. One day Mr. Hare was making fun of Mr. Tortoise's slowness, he bragged on and on about how fast he, Mr. Hare, is and how slow Mr. Tortoise is. After listening to relentless boasting of Mr. Hare's hustle, Mr. Tortoise raised his neck and challenged Mr. Hare to a race. 

Mr Hare thought "what a silly fellow, he thinks he can beat me, I'll show him" and says, "Sure, Mr. Tortoise, the race is on"
Mr. Tortoise called out for animals in the jungle and mapped the race track and set the time of the race.
The next day at sunrise the race began, Mr. Hare being such a swift runner, soon left Mr. Tortoise behind. After crossing half-way Mr. Hare stopped for a while, stretched his arms thinking, "I have plenty of time to take a nap" and slept alongside the road. Mr. Tortoise walking slow and steadily, never stopping, finished the race before Mr. Hare. 
Later in the evening, when Mr. Hare woke up he ran as fast as he could to see Mr. Tortoise waiting patiently for his arrival at the finish line. 
Moral:
<Slow and steady wins the race>


Story #2 (story continued after the first race)


After losing to Mr. Tortoise, Mr. Hare felt terribly ashamed of himself and to keep his future generations from making fun of him, he challenged Mr. Tortoise for another race and this time Mr. Hare had made up his mind to not to stop until he reaches the finish line, Mr. Tortoise agreed. 

The race was planned the similar way and in the end obviously Mr. Hare won the simple race because he was fast and Mr. Tortoise was slow. 
Moral:
<Determination and strong will are the key ingredients to success>


Story #3 (further a bit more)


Mr. Tortoise said to Mr. Hare, "we've raced twice, we both won once, now lets have another race, a last one, to decide the winner. Once and for all, to settle the argument."
Mr. Hare, proud and obsessed with his speed, agreed.  Mr. Tortoise said, "but one condition, Mr. Hare, I will choose the path of the race"
Mr. Hare agreed to that as well. Hence, the path was selected by Mr. T and the race began in the same way. Mr. Hare was determined to stop only after he finishes the race before Mr. T.

What Mr.  H didn't know was, that the finishing line was beyond a deep pond. and there was no way for Mr. H to reach the other end to get to the finishing line. Hence he waited and waited and thought and thought. Meanwhile Mr. T reached the pond and saw Mr. H sitting there deep in thoughts. But since it was working as Mr. T planned, he smiled sheepishly and crossed the pond and hence won that particular race. 
Moral: 
<A person, well-prepared with a perfect strategy is higher above than a person full of talent and experience>


Story #4 (My favorite and best of all)


After finally admitting defeat Mr. Hare, stopped boasting about his speed and became a pleasant person to be around with. So, Mr. Tortoise asked Mr. Hare to be friends, which Mr. H agreed up on happily. One day both of them were sitting idle, had nothing to do, Mr. H proposed to Mr. T, that they should have a race, not a competitive race, but a friendly one. A very healthy and friendly race between the two of them. Mr. T agreed. Mr H chose the same path that Mr. T chose in the last race. On the normal ground Mr. H carried Mr. T on his shoulders and ran as fast as he could and upon reaching the pond Mr. T carried Mr. Hare on his hunch, swimming all the way to the other end. Hence, they both reached the other end of the pond together. Mr. H then realized that it took them half of the time together to complete the race whereas individually it was a huge waste of time. Mr. T was also thinking the same thing. Hence they  both learned a valuable lesson, Mr. Hare never bragged about his capabilities to any one ever again. 
Moral:
<Team-Work and Team-Spirit will take you to a goal where you cannot even dream of going on your own>


**Some splendid examples of team work:- 
1.Sir Edmund Hillary and Tenzing Norgay (first ever to climb the Mt. Everest on May 29, 1953.
2.Neil Armstrong and Edwin "Buzz" Aldrin Jr. (first ever to step on the moon on July 20, 1969.
and so on..


I am grateful to one of my Professor's at my college for re-telling us what we've already known in a full interactive way possible. I am never going to forget this story and try to imply it as much as I can in my life. 
This just shows that there are several outcomes of one phase and its our wish to choose the right door. Also, all the morals are completely adaptive to their specific borough. 
Cheers!


XOXO